Why Presence Matters More Than Presents This Christmas
As the Christmas season approaches, our schedules fill up with shopping lists, holiday parties, gift exchanges, and the endless to-dos that come with the season. While the desire to give perfect gifts is genuine, I was reminded recently of something far more valuable than anything we can buy, wrap, or place under a tree: our presence.
This month, I was asked to share my testimony during a women’s Bible study group. To be honest, I was surprised to realize that I had never shared my story in depth before. As I stood before those women, recounting my journey with God—the highs, the struggles, the breakthroughs—I felt vulnerable, but also deeply connected to the room. I spoke from my heart, not knowing how it would be received. But afterward, several women approached me, sharing how my testimony touched them. Out of all the games, the gifts, and the food, they told me that what I shared was the most impactful part of the night.
Their words humbled me. I realized that the greatest gift I gave that evening wasn’t something wrapped with a bow—it was my time, my story, and my presence. I was fully there, open, and willing to connect, and that simple act created lasting impact.
The Power of Being Fully Present
In a world where we are constantly pulled in a thousand directions, true presence is a rare gift. How often do we sit with someone and give them our undivided attention? No phones, no distractions, just heart-to-heart connection. When we offer our full presence, we’re saying:
“You matter.”
“You’re seen.”
“You’re loved.”
Isn’t that what Jesus did during His time on earth? He didn’t rush through moments; He lingered. He listened. He healed with His presence, not just with His power. This Christmas, perhaps we are called to follow His example—to slow down, to notice, and to be truly with those around us.
Moments Over Materials
I think about the women who thanked me after my testimony. What they needed that night wasn’t a beautifully wrapped gift or the perfect holiday treat—they needed a moment of authenticity, encouragement, and connection. And let’s be honest, isn’t that what we all crave?
When we look back at the holiday season, what memories do we cherish most? It’s rarely the gifts. It’s the late-night talks, the shared laughter, the prayers whispered together, and the quiet moments when we felt the love of God through the people around us. These are the treasures that last.
How to Give the Gift of Presence This Season
Here are a few ways to be intentionally present this Christmas:
Put the Phone Away: During family gatherings or coffee dates with friends, set your phone aside and focus entirely on the conversation.
Listen Fully: Give people your full attention when they speak. Listen not just to respond, but to truly understand.
Share Your Story: Whether it's your testimony, a lesson learned, or a struggle overcome, your authenticity can be a powerful gift.
Pray Together: Pause in the middle of the hustle to pray with a loved one. These shared spiritual moments create bonds stronger than any holiday tradition.
Offer Quality Time: Instead of buying more things, give the gift of an experience—a walk, a coffee date, or an afternoon of undivided time together.
Presence Is a Reflection of God’s Love
When we give our presence, we reflect God’s love to others. After all, what did God give us at Christmas? Not just a gift, but Himself—in the form of His Son, Jesus. The very name Emmanuel means “God with us.” He showed us that the most meaningful gift is presence—being with us, walking beside us, and offering His unwavering love.
This Christmas, let’s remember that our presence is enough. Our stories are enough. Our love, when shared authentically, is enough. We don’t have to chase perfection; we just have to show up, be real, and let God work through us.
Because sometimes, the best gift isn’t under the tree—it’s the time spent around it.
Wishing You a Christmas Full of Connection, Peace, and Presence.